File under "feminism"

The publisher and editors.

The editors used to write for The Hairpin, a page with the subheading "ladies first", and part of the same group that publishes The Awl.
see previous and on and on and on. Alessandra Stanley is not nearly as bad as most of her critics.

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Mallory Ortberg is now Daniel Lavery, married to Grace Lavery. 

The sense of transnational displacement I feel here brings me into closer contact than ever with the general paradox of trans feminism: there is something about being treated like shit by shit men that feels like affirmation itself, like a cry of delight from the deepest cavern of my breast.

 It's all a sad mess.

Danny met Grace, an academic, in 2015, two years after the birth of The Toast, a sly and chaotic website that also made Danny’s co-founder, Nicole Cliffe, a beloved internet presence; it closed up shop with a eulogy from Hillary Clinton in 2016. In 2019, he turned 33, married Grace, took her last name, and broke contact with his family, publicly holding his pastor father to account for choices you’d never want your pastor to make. As now perhaps the most famous trans couple of a certain slice of literary America, they decamped abruptly from California to New York.

A year after the Lavery wedding, Grace met Lily online. Lily was teaching art history at Michigan State and — by her account — “reading Killing Eve fan fiction and masturbating.” They fell for each other. Eventually, Lily came to visit Grace in the city; specifically, she borrowed an apartment in Manhattan and dressed up as a clown for part of the evening. Lots of sexting ensued. Two things led to another, or one thing led to two others. “I didn’t want to read more fan fiction,” Lily says. “I wanted my life to resemble fan fiction.” She wanted to join their gang is how Grace considers it. Eventually, Lily moved in. (It would probably interest you to know, because we’re all nosy, that, yes, they all sleep in the same bed. It also doesn’t seem particularly large.)

“For a long time, I didn’t want to have a baby because I was worried about what the world’s going to look like,” Lily says. She is in the middle of the seating arrangement, flanked by Grace and Danny. But in the summer of 2022, her point of view, which was previously and naturally quite pessimistic, changed. She began to see having a baby as an endorsement of optimism, a tribute to love — exactly why anyone has a baby.